What is “One-Anothering”?
 

In the video, “one anothering” means the New Testament pattern of mutual, two-way discipleship and care—not passively receiving from a leader, but actively participating in the community’s life by:

• encouraging and strengthening one another

• praying for one another

• comforting one another

• forgiving one another

• teaching/admonishing one another

• carrying and bearing burdens for one another

In short: “One-Anothering” = the lived practice of reciprocal love that builds the community up. 
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An essential component of successful One-Anothering is to embrace first, seeing yourself as God(F,S,S) sees you, and second, seeing others as God(F,S,S) sees them.
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"Church" as Edification:

In this video Tom and Kent discuss the heart of early Christian gatherings wasn’t “attending a worship service,” but edification as a lifestyle—a community practice where love is in charge and believers actively build each other up.

 

Key themes it develops:
 

• Edification as the core purpose of gathering: The speakers contrast first-century assemblies (mutual strengthening) with modern church culture that can become pastor-centered and spectator-oriented.

• Love as self-giving and multiplying: Because “God is love,” love is presented as something that naturally gives itself away and produces growth in others.

• Kingdom mission framing: The community’s mission is described as bringing “the life of God to earth,” which should show up concretely in how people treat one another.

• Edification language: They highlight the Greek concept often translated “edify” (building up/strengthening the household/community), emphasizing the church as a shared life, not an event.

• Why many feel modern church is empty: People may leave when they don’t experience real mutual care and participation—because the model doesn’t cultivate everyday, shared “building up.”

 

Need for new structures (“new wine/new wineskins”): If the goal is mutual edification, communities may need different forms/practices than traditional service formats.
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Ecclesia:
Kent treats the “ecclesia” not as a building, a weekly event, or a clergy-led production, but as the gathered people/community themselves—a living “household/family” of Jesus whose purpose is to embody God(F,S,S)’s life (love) together.
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Practically, that means the ecclesia is:
 

• A people, not a place: “church” isn’t something you attend; it’s a community you belong to.

• A mutual-edification community: it exists to build one another up (what the video calls “One-Anothering”), not to create a one-way religious experience.

• Distributed life and gifts: instead of being pastor-centered, it’s a body where participation, encouragement, teaching, care, and responsibility are shared across members.

• A way-of-life ecosystem: the “church” is meant to be a recognizable social reality (shared practices, relationships, daily love), not just a meeting.

This lines up with how the video talks about edification as strengthening the “household,” and how “one another” practices are the normal operating system of the community.

Setting:
Kent is using “setting” to mean the concrete context that shapes a community’s shared life—the place and conditions in which “one-anothering” and edification actually happen.
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In the video’s logic, “setting” includes things like:
 

• Physical environment: where you meet and live (homes vs. church building, neighborhood layout, proximity, hospitality space, walkability, etc.).

• Social environment: relationships, trust, safety, shared rhythms, how people spend time, who has access to whom.

• Cultural/economic realities: schedules, busyness, commuting, financial pressure, technology habits—factors that can either make attention and love possible or constantly fragment them.

The “feel” and norms of interaction: whether the space and environment invite participation and vulnerability, or push people into passive consumption.
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Why it matters for him: the “setting” can either support an edification lifestyle (easy to be present, share life, notice needs, participate) or work against it (anonymous crowds, performer/audience dynamics, limited relational access).

The Denominational "Us versus Them" Divide:
Around the 27 minute mark, Tom’s point is that many Churches unintentionally train people into judgment—creating a culture where members learn to evaluate and condemn those who don’t match their Church’s beliefs or behaviors.

His main thoughts:
This produces an “us vs. them” posture rather than a community centered on love and mutual upbuilding.

• A judgment-shaped culture is at odds with the New Testament emphasis (as they’ve been describing it) on edification and “one another” practices—building people up in love and good works.

He adds that judging is a burden humans weren’t meant to carry; ultimately, that role belongs to God(F,S,S), not the community.

System:
For Kent, “system” is the shared way of relating and making decisions together that turns a group of individuals into a unified community. It’s the bridge where the “Story” (what we believe) and the “Setting” (where we are) meet in practical, cooperative action of individuals recognizing their identity with&in the Relationship of God(F,S,S). I will use the term, Oneship, as Jesus presented in honor of John 17:20-23

Key aspects of his definition:

• Shared agreements: It’s the mutual understanding of who we are and why we are here. It’s not just about individual faith, but about a connected “us.” 

• “Love is a team sport”: Kent uses this phrase to push back against Western individualism. He argues that you can’t truly live out the way of Jesus alone; the “system” is the structure that makes mutual love possible.

• The “Us Voices” vs. the “I Voice”: A healthy system prioritizes listening to the connected community and discerning together, rather than everyone just following their own individual desires or one person (like a pastor) dictating to everyone else.

• Connected to Jesus and to each other discernment: It’s the practice of the ecclesia (the gathered people) learning to hear the Holy Spirit’s leading together.

• A “New Wineskin”: He sees this shared, participatory system as the necessary structure (the wineskin) to hold the “new wine” of the Kingdom of God.
   

In short: System = the practical, relational “how-to” of being a community that discerns and acts as one.